✍ October 6, 2023
Watching missionaries, and zocial workers have always inspired Eyam. While reading the ztory of Chayle zhe thought zhe’s blessed to have a missionary friend in real life. Meanwhile, Eyam can only watch the lives of humanitarians on videos. That’s why zhe has always looked forward to watching documentaries about the lives of these humanitarians and enthusiasts. Zhe has certain favorite advocates that zhe always follows and is always excited to zee and be updated about. Zhe wonders when can zhe watch them again? Zhe misses watching these good cause advocates. Zhe wants to zee them to know how are they doing, and if they are healthy despite that they are working hard. Zhe hopes zhe’ll be able to zee them very zoon. 🙏🏿
Didi – January 4, 2022
Didi 1
Last year, I wrote about my friend who is a wife of a missionary. This friend is older than me and she’s one of my mentors. In that post, I called her “Missionary Friend.” But in today’s story, I’m going to use the name “Didi” to talk about her. “Didi” is not her real name.
In the last story that I’ve written about Didi, I mentioned her wedding preparation, the wedding dress I designed for her, and what she taught me about choosing a mate. In tonight’s story, I’m going to write about her happiness and married life.
When you look at Didi she looks timid, weak, and a passive woman, but Didi is principled and firm with her decisions. She’s the kind of woman who does what she preaches. She’s also good-hearted, that’s why I like her. Every time I meet Didi, she inspires me, and I learn from her.
Last Sunday I met Didi… When I got to our meeting place, I was looking for her but I couldn’t find her. Suddenly I felt someone poke me at the right side of my waist, so I looked back. When I turned around I saw Didi! I got excited so I hugged her instantly. She’s wearing a black turtleneck shirt and a long floral skirt. In my eyes, she looked prettier than the last time I saw her, so I told her “You got even prettier!!!.” and I was smiling.
We had a hard time looking for a cafe. Most of them were crowded. We want a space that’s quiet so we can talk. When we finally found one and we’re already sitting I told her that I think she’s happy because she looks prettier. She’s just smiling. We talked about a lot of things until we chatted about choices. She told me “It’s all about choices, you must be careful with your choices to make the things that you do align with your purpose, and values. If the things that you do are aligned, and in harmony, you will be happy.” Didi is speaking from her experience. Didi married a good husband who understands what she loves to do. She and her husband have the same desire which is to reach out to people and share about the bible.
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Didi 2
While we were talking about her married life, I told Didi, I know that you’re happy with your marriage but what is something that makes you happier? When Didi heard my question, she had a furrowed forehead. I can see in her reaction that she doesn’t know what to answer. Then she asked me, “What do you mean?” I told her, “Some people need to do this, do that, go there, have this, have that to be happier. How about you? What is something that makes you happier, something that you look forward to, to become happier?” Didi still looked confused and was thinking about what to answer. I realized it’s really hard for her to respond and I didn’t want to pressure Didi to give me an answer if she can’t. Her reaction had already told me the answer. So I told her, “You know what, you’re the only person who can’t give a particular answer and have that kind of reaction when I ask what makes you happier? That means you’re really happy because you don’t have to wait for something, someone, some event to happen or and go somewhere to be happy. You’re just happy.” She said “I’m just happy every day. Actually, what I feel is joy, not happiness. Happiness and joy are two different things. You feel Happy when something happens, but joy is different. Joy is there and you feel good and thankful regardless of what you are facing.
Here’s the thing, even though Didi is joyful, it doesn’t mean she’s living a perfect life. Didi and her husband’s work is actually scary. They are in a different territory and religious conflict can put their lives in danger. Didi looks timid and weak, but her life choices prove that she’s strong. She married a man who’s being sent to different places and pursued risky work that can put their life at stake. Even though every day is dangerous in their normal life, she’s happy because she’s doing her purpose and doing it with the man she loves.
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Didi 3
Didi’s life and love story is beautiful. I know how they started because she retold it to me yesterday. I’ve also seen when they were just dating and doing their wedding preparation. I was also there at their wedding. And now that they have been married for 5 years, Didi is still telling me about their married life. I’m happy that Didi continues to be happy.
When it’s already 6 pm Didi told me that her husband was waiting for her in a nearby tea house. They have an appointment with other people. I escorted her to that teahouse, and while we were walking, I thanked Didi for meeting me… Didi told me that among her friends I’m the only one whom she met. (when she said that, it feels nice 🤭)
When her husband saw us, he stood up and I smiled at him. When we got closer, I told him “Thank you for allowing your wife to meet me. I appreciate that you let her spend some time with me.” Her husband told me, “Didi’s dream has finally come true. She met you again.” I was touched when he said that… I did not know that Didi had been wanting to meet me too that much. I told him “I actually dream of meeting her too. The feeling is mutual“ (Honestly, I can’t stop myself from smiling that time 🤭)
It’s been 5 years since the last time I met Didi and I don’t know when we will meet again because she has to go on a mission trip again and stay there for many years. While I was walking away from the teahouse, I was thinking I used to see Didi every day, but now, it has become difficult for us to meet. It feels like meeting each other is a dream… We don’t know when we will meet again, 😞 but I’m hoping that the waiting is not too long… All I know is that whenever there’s a chance that I can meet Didi, I would meet her. Even though we are not seeing each other I love Didi and she will always be a precious friend to me.
Didi never fails to be a good mentor. Up to now she still teaches me. I remember what she said while she was praying for me. She said: “May we learn and have wisdom from our conversation today.” On my way home after we met, I was thinking of the things she said, and now I’ve written some of it. Indeed, I’ve learned a lot from our conversation.
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